Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Is Love More Powerful than Sex

Sex and romance may seem inextricably linked, but the human brain clearly distinguishes between the two, according to a new study. The upshot: Love is the more powerful emotion.

The results of brain scans speak to longstanding questions of whether the pursuit of love and sex are different emotional endeavors or whether romance is just warmed over sexual arousal.

"Our findings show that the brain areas activated when someone looks at a photo of their beloved only partially overlap with the brain regions associated with sexual arousal," said Arthur Aron of the State University of New York-Stony Brook. "Sex and romantic love involve quite different brain systems."

Left side, right side

Thursday, September 23, 2010

How to Make Your Woman More Passionate

All the things about great sex involves touching and mastering the essentials of touching is one of the best ways to make her realize how fun sex can be. Therefore I want to share with you some techniques for touching a woman, that will give her euphoric sensation, make her flush uncontrollably with excitement and drive her wild with desire.

(1) Touch her more

The 1st thing you must know is that women love to be touched. For women, being touched gives her strong feelings of approval. It is a powerful reward to a woman when you touch her and it can instantly make her feel great.

Women link many feelings of sexuality, love and trust with the sensations, love and trust with the sensations that are aroused in them when a man puts his hands on her. It can make her feel both sexually excited and safe at the same time.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Love Is A Decision

When you Google LOVE, there are so many websites/advice on LOVE. I used to be one of those LOVE seekers until I got married. It was then I discovered LOVE is not a feeling but is a decision. Attraction/lust is a feeling but it is definitely not the good foundation for LOVE. Love is when one can look beyond the lust/attraction feeling and make a CONSCIOUS decision to accept the other party for his/her entirety.

Those Mills and Boons books describing the heart palpitation are just temporary and initial feelings when you meet someone. As you get to know a person, it is then you make the decision whether to fall IN LOVE with the person. Similarly, a divorce is also a decision to fall OUT OF LOVE with the person.

It's not the other party has changed but you yourself has DECIDED not to accept the person for his/her flaws. When lust was in place, the flaws are often pushed aside but as stability or should I say monotonous sets in, the flaws starts surfacing. Usually the party the make the conscious decision to fall OUT OF love will find excuses for his/her conscience that things have changed or the other party has changed.

But in all honesty, the person that decides to fall OUT OF LOVE, could not face up to the fact that he/she has make that conscious decision to do so and it has nothing to do with the other party.

Many people try to find love and said that they couldn't. It is because all of us have set our own criteria for LOVE. Some of us wants a Tall, Dark, Handsome man, Singaporean set the 5C's criteria, men wants women with big boobs/bum etc. But did any of us prepare ourselves what happens when this criteria disappears after a while? What do we do when our Tall, Dark, Handsome man become a couch potato with pot belly, our 5C man loses his job, our big boobs woman has a mastectomy? Do we then make the conscious decision to fall OUT OF LOVE and initiate a divorce based on irreconcilable differences?

We envy those who celebrate their golden anniversary but if we talk to this people, you will find that it's their decision to stay together. No doubt, I know that there are many people who also decide to stay together for the sake of their children but they are not happy together. But whatever it is, it is still a decision - to fall in love, to fall out of love, to stay together but remain unhappy. It's all a choice - A DECISION.

So to those who cant find love, maybe it is your decision not to, to those facing a divorce, it is also a decision either from you or your partner and to those happily married for 50 years, it is also your decision to make the best of what you have chosen. What I am saying is by all means you these websites to widen your circle, to know more people, to increase your choices but if these websites promised to find you love, then think twice.

It is your own decision to love or not to love, no one can give you the shortcut and the secret to finding love.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Romantic Kiss & Sex

Think that sex is the end-all and be-all of a relationship? You may be in the minority. Emotional closeness tops physical contact, according to a new survey, where six out of 10 people prefer a kiss and a cuddle to sex and say being hugged reduces stress and helps with relaxation.

Seventy-three percent of those surveyed also believe that touch is a natural instinct rather than a conscious decision.

The survey, by contraceptive makers Bayer Schering Pharma, revealed that companionship (38 percent) and commitment (40 percent) rated significantly higher in a relationship than sex (6 percent) and physical contact (9 percent).

However, where they like to be touched differed significantly between men and women.

According to the survey, almost a third of men liked to be touched on their genitals.

More than half of the women questioned preferred their neck and back.

Christine Webber, sex and relationships expert, said: "Our desire for physical contact can be reduced by a wide variety of factors and one that is often overlooked is that a woman may simply be using a contraceptive type or brand that is the wrong choice for her.

"Other factors include being too busy, tired and stressed.

"In 2010, very many women lead such hectic lives that they feel constantly exhausted. As a result, sex drifts down the list of priorities.

"Unfortunately, fatigue is a real enemy of libido. This is very sad because lack of intimacy can endanger any relationship.

"However, when we touch our partners -- and have caring and loving sex -- this boosts the levels in our bodies of a hormone called oxytocin.

"This hormone helps us to feel more bonded to our partner and generates a real sense of well-being.

"Anything we can do to get up close and personal rather more often is likely to make us feel good."

While 98 percent of Brits surveyed believed intimacy plays a vital role in a relationship, it is men who have to take the lead, with nine in 10 women admitting that they do not initiate physical contact and leave it up to their partner.

More than half of those questioned said they thought the rise of social networking had led to less physical interaction.

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Hot Seduction Tips

Believe it or not, most men don't really know how to take their lovey-dovey relationship to the next level. Most men don't really understand how to get physical with a woman, without seeming too desperate for it.

So, for those of you who belong to the league of men who do not know how to propose sexual intimacy, here are tips that will put you on the right track...

• Chivalry is the key
Most men make the mistake of directly wanting to jump into the bed. Remember, women generally like to take it slow and steady. Therefore, always begin with gentle touches and tender taps. Be a gentleman, open the door of the car for her, give her your hand, and stroke her subtly so that she gets comfortable with your touch.

• Whisper sweet nothings
Know her erogenous zone and play with it. Her ears are one of the most sensually stimulating areas. So, instead of kissing her left, right and centre, whisper something erotic into her ear. Rub your soft lips against her supple earlobe. This would surely heat her up for some more pleasurable action.

• Tease her to tempt
Tease her to tempt her. The formula works very well for women like those men who have self control. So lean towards her, whisper something into her ears, lightly brush your lips against her skin, continue to do so for a while till you see chills running down her spine and then move back. Chances are that you'll soon see her pouncing upon you.

• Offer her a sensual massage
Another sure shot way to get physical with your woman is to offer her a massage. A woman would love to bed a guy who’s not only good at heating things up, but also great at cooling it down. Set the mood right, get some aromatic massage oils and begin with gentle strokes on the neck. Read her body language to know if she likes your touch and take things forward from there.

• Be a man enough
Last but not the least; don’t ever try getting physical with a woman without her consent. Be a gentleman enough to not to propose sexual intimacy when you know she intoxicated or in a state of rebound. Give her time to open up if she’s not comfortable with the idea of jumping into sheets with you!

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

What Is Safer Sex?

Safer sex is a general term used to describe methods for reducing the chance that you will spread or catch sexually transmitted diseases (STDs, also known as sexually transmitted infections or STIs). The idea is that with a few simple tools and strategies, you can increase safety without sacrificing your sex life.

Use condoms
The first and best line of defense is to use a latex barrier whenever you have sex (if you have a latex allergy, use polyurethane instead). That means using a condom on the penis or on a sex toy; latex gloves on your hands; and when engaging in oral sex, dental dams or plastic wrap to cover the anus or vagina.

Get tested for HIV and other Knowing your own status is the only way to approach the next point honestly.

Communicate
Safer sex also involves talking with your partner, discussing activities and risks and making educated choices together. Of course, sex raises a number of other questions. Do you trust your partner? How do you get a guy to use a condom if he refuses to do so? What if you are suspicious that your partner is not being monogamous?

Change sex practices
Some people choose to avoid risky activities completely or find ways to reduce the complications associated with them—although this strategy still requires honesty, communication, and STD testing.

Be monogamous or abstinent
Total abstinence is the only 100% effective safe sex method; it's just not that realistic for most people. Next in line is a long-term monogamous relationship in which both partners know their status to be negative for STDs, and both stay true to the monogamous ideal.